Depression is weird,

Shadowprophet

Truthiness
I'm beginning to think there is no way to truly escape depression. one of my long-time friends this morning began talking about his depression, And the deal was, I know this guy, He wants to vent his depression by talking to me about it for hours, So I cut him off and said look, man, You do this every year, You get depressed because of your woman issues and then as soon as spring or summer hits you find a woman and then you aren't depressed anymore, So, I asked him could we just please spare the long depressing talk. He gets upset, I tried to explain to him, that for me depression is a toxic thing that I go out of my way to avoid, He said he understood, And yet he was still pissed off at me for how I handled the situation.


My thing is, I just don't want to place any time at all dwelling on depression. It's not healthy for a person, And The thing is, I'm the kind of person that dwells a lot on my thoughts the last thing I need is any form of depression to dwell on. I do however feel Like I dismissed his depression As if it were nothing and then went on to tell him how his problems weren't actual problems.

I know I could have done a better job navigating through that situation. But, To be fair, at that moment it really did feel like, him saying. " I feel this Dark bad pain, -Let me share it with you" And I just didn't want that. Am I a terrible person? Because there is another side to this, I could have done a better job being his friend and talking with him about the issues :( So ironically, I'm a little down, Because I was trying to avoid someone bringing me down, And it backfired and made things worse.


There is no way to win, Depression is like an act of war, people will literally kick your emotional walls down to infect you with it.


It's no wonder I'm a fucking hermit :(
 

Kchoo

At Peace.
I'm beginning to think there is no way to truly escape depression. one of my long-time friends this morning began talking about his depression, And the deal was, I know this guy, He wants to vent his depression by talking to me about it for hours, So I cut him off and said look, man, You do this every year, You get depressed because of your woman issues and then as soon as spring or summer hits you find a woman and then you aren't depressed anymore, So, I asked him could we just please spare the long depressing talk. He gets upset, I tried to explain to him, that for me depression is a toxic thing that I go out of my way to avoid, He said he understood, And yet he was still pissed off at me for how I handled the situation.


My thing is, I just don't want to place any time at all dwelling on depression. It's not healthy for a person, And The thing is, I'm the kind of person that dwells a lot on my thoughts the last thing I need is any form of depression to dwell on. I do however feel Like I dismissed his depression As if it were nothing and then went on to tell him how his problems weren't actual problems.

I know I could have done a better job navigating through that situation. But, To be fair, at that moment it really did feel like, him saying. " I feel this Dark bad pain, -Let me share it with you" And I just didn't want that. Am I a terrible person? Because there is another side to this, I could have done a better job being his friend and talking with him about the issues :( So ironically, I'm a little down, Because I was trying to avoid someone bringing me down, And it backfired and made things worse.


There is no way to win, Depression is like an act of war, people will literally kick your emotional walls down to infect you with it.


It's no wonder I'm a fucking hermit :(

Dude, I am depressed just from reading this.
 

Shadowprophet

Truthiness
But I feel better now....
I just don't like depression and I try to avoid it, I feel like sometimes I come off like an ass or something. It's not that I mean too, It just depression is a flavor I don't want much of normally. you know :)
 

Kchoo

At Peace.
I just don't like depression and I try to avoid it, I feel like sometimes I come off like an ass or something. It's not that I mean too, It just depression is a flavor I don't want much of normally. you know :)
I can understand depression, but I can’t handle depressed people going on and on about how miserable they are... it’s too much like they are just doing it to get attention. Oh I have no patience or sympathy for it man. I am like, “So get off your arse and just be happy.”
 

pepe

Celestial
Your friend will unfortunately drag you down and therfore should be dropped like a hot potato and left to seek pity from those who wear oven gloves. They are out there and do a great job.

Never look past the possibility of a brighter future with new people.

I have practised this and then the sun came out.
 

Shadowprophet

Truthiness
Your friend will unfortunately drag you down and therfore should be dropped like a hot potato and left to seek pity from those who wear oven gloves. They are out there and do a great job.

Never look past the possibility of a brighter future with new people.

I have practised this and then the sun came out.

I do get that, I know sometimes we have to cut people off, I really do understand that It's just so hard for me to do, And in this persons case, I and he have been friends since we were kids . for me, And I'm not saying it's this way for everyone. It's like an OCD thing, we had been friends for so long, I just don't want to change the dynamic, <-- if that makes sense I don't know why I'm this way, I don't really have a reason to be that way.
But that's as genuine an answer as I can dig and find.

At the same time as I say this claim though, I distance myself from everyone and isolate myself, Not as a punishment or penance, But because I'm happiest when I'm alone with my thoughts, Some people may find that sad, But,

That's a subjective opinion, When I'm alone with my thoughts I can speculate on quantum mechanics, Extraterrestrial life, run thought experiments, For me, Being alone by myself is like an ultimate freedom to truly be myself and not have to worry about entertaining others, It's total freedom. I know that's too much of an explanation on the whole hermit ordeal,
But I don't want people getting the wrong idea, It's not out of some depression I have or any kind of real issue I have with people. I feel Like I'm the most "Me" when I'm by myself and can be me, It's happiness for me bro.
 

spacecase0

earth human
there is a way to get rid of depression
decide you are going to be happy. and I mean really decide it.
start with filling yourself with the energy of happiness for about 15 min. before you go to sleep each night
this gets you the most effect for the least work
refuse to let that spiral of depression start at all.
when you first start this, often it will feel like you are pushing on a wall
but it will eventually move,
years of inertia is hard to change, but it is very possible.don't get upset when it is not instant.
 

Sheltie

Fratty and out of touch.
I've had experience with people who suffer from depression as friends or as romantic partners. People come to me a lot because they know I'm a good listener. Unfortunately, it's been my experience that people who suffer from depression don't really want help resolving their problems; they just want to throw a pity party so they can wallow in self pity. Eventually it becomes tedious and frustrating and I end up losing touch with them.

Everyone has their share of problems and daily stresses. If people want therapy from their friends, they must be willing to offer guidance and support in addition to just receiving it.
 

Shadowprophet

Truthiness
there is a way to get rid of depression
decide you are going to be happy. and I mean really decide it.
start with filling yourself with the energy of happiness for about 15 min. before you go to sleep each night
this gets you the most effect for the least work
refuse to let that spiral of depression start at all.
when you first start this, often it will feel like you are pushing on a wall
but it will eventually move,
years of inertia is hard to change, but it is very possible.don't get upset when it is not instant.

I read this over and over, I'm having one of my really weird OCD days, Every passthrough I couldn't get over how well thought out and true this is.

There is a field in experimental psychology, What is Experimental Psychology? – Best Masters in Psychology That focuses on reprogramming the brain to overcome PTSD and depression, It consists of literally doing other things, When one feels sad, they should Seek something that makes them happy, When dwelling on the problem they should adversely dwell on another subject, Over time, The brain becomes rewired because of it' nature to repetition, In time the mind will begin seeking these alternatives subconsciously. It's a fascinating study.


How to Rewire Your Anxious Brain and How to Heal Anxiety Disorders

This is still experimental psychology because it's not been substantiated through study or an empirically proven concept for that matter., Some people even say it's simply a form of self-hypnosis, Either way, It's been working for me for years.

It makes sense to me that it works, If someone burns their hand, the first step to rectify the problem is to take ones hand away from what burned it. so to try thinking of something else instead of being sad and depressed, Would in time change someone's outlook I'd think. It would at least stop burning anyway :/
 

Kchoo

At Peace.
I have been working on my subconcious for some time. Yet I had no idea it was my conscious mind that was needing rewired. At any rate, I am learning to own myself a little more every day. Nobody said growing is easy.
 

Shadowprophet

Truthiness
I have been working on my subconcious for some time. Yet I had no idea it was my conscious mind that was needing rewired. At any rate, I am learning to own myself a little more every day. Nobody said growing is easy.

No, Noone ever did, but, you never hear anyone speaking about the rewards of growing and learning.
There is a part of me, Something in me that keeps telling me, My empathy should be greater than it is.
Don't get me wrong I'm an emotional roller coaster, I'm far from sociopathic. But, If I spend too long not caring about problems, Then what do I care about? I feel I've got the right idea on avoiding depression, But for the sake of other people and empathy, I need to find a proper balance for it I think.

~Signed Flippy.
 

Kchoo

At Peace.
No, Noone ever did, but, you never hear anyone speaking about the rewards of growing and learning.
There is a part of me, Something in me that keeps telling me, My empathy should be greater than it is.
Don't get me wrong I'm an emotional roller coaster, I'm far from sociopathic. But, If I spend too long not caring about problems, Then what do I care about? I feel I've got the right idea on avoiding depression, But for the sake of other people and empathy, I need to find a proper balance for it I think.

~Signed Flippy.

Good work... yeah, it really is about balance... Sometimes when everything is perfect in one area, we realize the price is the thing that was ignored. Sometimes you can bring that back, at least enough to be a more complete person... and that can be worth the struggle.

- Signed Over Simplified
 

pepe

Celestial
I do get that, I know sometimes we have to cut people off, I really do understand that It's just so hard for me to do, And in this persons case, I and he have been friends since we were kids . for me, And I'm not saying it's this way for everyone. It's like an OCD thing, we had been friends for so long, I just don't want to change the dynamic, <-- if that makes sense I don't know why I'm this way, I don't really have a reason to be that way.
But that's as genuine an answer as I can dig and find.

At the same time as I say this claim though, I distance myself from everyone and isolate myself, Not as a punishment or penance, But because I'm happiest when I'm alone with my thoughts, Some people may find that sad, But,

That's a subjective opinion, When I'm alone with my thoughts I can speculate on quantum mechanics, Extraterrestrial life, run thought experiments, For me, Being alone by myself is like an ultimate freedom to truly be myself and not have to worry about entertaining others, It's total freedom. I know that's too much of an explanation on the whole hermit ordeal,
But I don't want people getting the wrong idea, It's not out of some depression I have or any kind of real issue I have with people. I feel Like I'm the most "Me" when I'm by myself and can be me, It's happiness for me bro.


I have dropped around a dozen friends who I have been close with since childhood and even more from later times because I felt an effect of their character on mine. Selfish, you bet I am when it comes to giving them time but other types of aid, no problem. I am extremely happy when alone and being myself and even happier when around the few I can be pure with. Filthy pure that is with their being no offence taken whatever is said or done.

Acting is a huge part of what is expected of us and some are natural and others have to work at it, I do neither as I can't do it and be happy with myself.

Falseness is a cigar called society for my kind and I believe it is why there is so much stress I sense in people.

I know an old man who has no filter what so ever and he draws people to him like moths to a light. Why would this be ? Because he is pure and people sense it.

Mick the magnificent.
 

pigfarmer

tall, thin, irritable
I had to cut off two relatives due to their endlessly self-absorbed nature. I regret it but it's like a circuit breaker operating to protect me. There's no rule that says you have to put up with an unlimited amount of crap from anybody. Like grains of sand every stupid thing they have said to me was piled on one end of a mental scale I didn't even know I had. One day it just tipped.
 

Shadowprophet

Truthiness
I had to cut off two relatives due to their endlessly self-absorbed nature. I regret it but it's like a circuit breaker operating to protect me. There's no rule that says you have to put up with an unlimited amount of crap from anybody. Like grains of sand every stupid thing they have said to me was piled on one end of a mental scale I didn't even know I had. One day it just tipped.
You guys do have a point, When times are really great for him, I never hear from the guy, I only hear from him when times are rough and he wants to lament.
 

Kchoo

At Peace.
I said, “Do you realize we have had this conversation before, and my advice was to stop dwelling on it. ?
Well, you are doing it again. I DON’t feel like repeating the same conversation over again... so, either move on from it, or stop talking to me about it.”
 
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