Am I wrong to be this way?

Shadowprophet

Truthiness
I know you have all seen my stories about the things I've gone through. So it's not like I don't have my own sad stories. But I do try to be positive, If I'm sad it's not for long and it doesn't last.

I tend to avoid Dark depressing people, Especially people who want to share really sad stories wanting a lot of input from me. People think I'm cold for just brushing people off when they come to me with sad stories.

It's not a coldness. To me, I didn't sign up to be someone's Husband or Wife, Or their emotional support, We have all went through hard times. And when someone comes to me, Specifically talking about their hardships, And Wanting to put the spotlight on them, I can't help but think about all the BS I've been through with losing my Daughters. And then to hear some asshole who lost his girlfriend or his mother told him he was fat, It just feels like My emotions are being trampled on by these people.

No, I didn't sign up to any website anywhere to be sad all the time, If someone is even thinking of approaching me with some sort of sad story,. Don't get mad at me for being ignored.

This is a community, To inflict your emotions upon it, especially of those emotions are burdens. Is Simply Wrong, I know I've done it myself, And humans are human. I'm not saying don't ever do it. But I am saying if that's your Mo, If you are this person All the time, Then you are Toxic to a community.

People may think, Damn that's cold shadow, No, It's not cold, If we stop and feel sad for everyone who is sad, We will never feel what happy feels like, We all need to know when to turn our heads and tune someone out.
 

Shadowprophet

Truthiness
I know that sounds cold, I got accused this morning of not listening to someone, And that's right I wasn't. I didn't want to hear the sad BS. :mad:

I view people trying to inflict their sadness on me as an attack that undermines that everyone has experienced pain and loss, I see it as selfish to a point of not realizing that everyone has these emotions, So Me Me Me people really get under my skin :Thumbsdown:


I know people think Well depression is really serious, And It is for some people, But for others, It's an emotion that comes and goes. I'm not a sad person, I'm not always dwelling in the darkness thinking about my exes and I'm not looking to be Sad. I chase after happiness, And sometimes I find it Because I look for it.

I don't need sadness.
 
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Standingstones

Celestial
It’s called the ‘Me Generation.’ I hear my nieces and nephews and their partners talking and I have to hold my tongue. These relatives are all college educated and have professions that my parents and grandparents wouldn’t be able to fathom.

Yet, the most minor setback is a crisis and everyone should have to listen to such talk. I want to tell them to suck it up. Life comes with plenty of problems that you have to deal with. Instead, my wife gives me the evil stare and I know I need to keep my mouth shut.
 

Shadowprophet

Truthiness
It’s called the ‘Me Generation.’ I hear my nieces and nephews and their partners talking and I have to hold my tongue. These relatives are all college educated and have professions that my parents and grandparents wouldn’t be able to fathom.

Yet, the most minor setback is a crisis and everyone should have to listen to such talk. I want to tell them to suck it up. Life comes with plenty of problems that you have to deal with. Instead, my wife gives me the evil stare and I know I need to keep my mouth shut.
Thank you for getting the point on this, I was worried people would think I was being an asshole. It's just, I want to help people as much as I can. But some people don't want help they want me to feel bad along with them, I can't do that, you know?
 

Standingstones

Celestial
I’m a total dinosaur when it comes to modern day social media. I don’t participate in any of it and I don’t understand the fascination with telling your family and friends every little thing that takes place in your daily life.

I want to tell people that say they have 500 ‘friends’ on Facebook that those people aren’t your friends. Maybe a handful but not 500. I know I would be looked at as a knuckle dragging asshole who is out of touch so again, I keep my mouth shut.
 

pepe

Celestial
The succubus of the mind.

Fucks with your head, remotely, while you are asleep and awake. There is no other escape than to play the fuccubus card. It trumps all, again it fucks with the head day and night and nullifies all emotional input as soon as it is played.

Always to be played at arms length for any beginners.
 

Shadowprophet

Truthiness
The succubus of the mind.

Fucks with your head, remotely, while you are asleep and awake. There is no other escape than to play the fuccubus card. It trumps all, again it fucks with the head day and night and nullifies all emotional input as soon as it is played.

Always to be played at arms length for any beginners.
Once upon a time, It used to bother me, when people would hit me with a really sad story. It's not that I've gotten colder as I got older, It's just I've realized, Everyone has burdens, Absolutely every last person everywhere has burdens. Some people, Will bring their burdens to your feet and lay them there, That's just wrong for someone to do, As everyone has burdens, So, I tend to view those people who do try to put their burdens off on others by making people feel bad or guilt-tripping them to sadness online, as an emotional kind of troll, With malicious intent.

Happiness Is hard to obtain, And every time someone does obtain it. There is always someone like a sniper in the bushes ready to wipe the smile off someone's face. I've come to View Downer type people, As more than a burden, They try to inflict others with their pain.

So, I've grown to ignore downer people at least in the online world because, Ultimately, From the ground up psychologically, to dump one's burdens on a basic stranger, is just saying, Hey, I'm too lazy and weak to bear all this pain, You can have it, dude.. And they get mad at me when I tell them their problems are their own.

Happiness, When you find it, Is something you have to protect, You can't let people just take it away from you, And they "Will" Try brother.
 

pigfarmer

tall, thin, irritable
Thank you for getting the point on this, I was worried people would think I was being an asshole. It's just, I want to help people as much as I can. But some people don't want help they want me to feel bad along with them, I can't do that, you know?

Nothing wrong with feeling empathy but some people will just suck the life out of you and then move on to the next.
 

pigfarmer

tall, thin, irritable
I’m a total dinosaur when it comes to modern day social media. I don’t participate in any of it and I don’t understand the fascination with telling your family and friends every little thing that takes place in your daily life.

I want to tell people that say they have 500 ‘friends’ on Facebook that those people aren’t your friends. Maybe a handful but not 500. I know I would be looked at as a knuckle dragging asshole who is out of touch so again, I keep my mouth shut.

Jeez - I thought this was social media :)
500 friends on Facesnapbookerest. Get just one on them to help you move your refrigerator.
 

Standingstones

Celestial
Jeez - I thought this was social media :)
500 friends on Facesnapbookerest. Get just one on them to help you move your refrigerator.
I prefer to think of this as a exchanging of ideas on UFO/Paranormal subjects. The old refrigerator was moved out by the delivery men when the new fridge was delivered!
 

pepe

Celestial
Once upon a time, It used to bother me, when people would hit me with a really sad story. It's not that I've gotten colder as I got older, It's just I've realized, Everyone has burdens, Absolutely every last person everywhere has burdens. Some people, Will bring their burdens to your feet and lay them there, That's just wrong for someone to do, As everyone has burdens, So, I tend to view those people who do try to put their burdens off on others by making people feel bad or guilt-tripping them to sadness online, as an emotional kind of troll, With malicious intent.

Happiness Is hard to obtain, And every time someone does obtain it. There is always someone like a sniper in the bushes ready to wipe the smile off someone's face. I've come to View Downer type people, As more than a burden, They try to inflict others with their pain.

So, I've grown to ignore downer people at least in the online world because, Ultimately, From the ground up psychologically, to dump one's burdens on a basic stranger, is just saying, Hey, I'm too lazy and weak to bear all this pain, You can have it, dude.. And they get mad at me when I tell them their problems are their own.

Happiness, When you find it, Is something you have to protect, You can't let people just take it away from you, And they "Will" Try brother.

Plenty more fish in the sea. Swerve them like potholes is good advice.

I always think of the Tribesman who has suffered a life of hardship and loss as a comparison to the privileged victim as we are.

I've had some real tough times and some real great ones and only share the good because the other are for personal processing without external input. Family loss and death of friends are special this way, untainted by the random.

If I shared my woes and began to feel support from people I have never met, it would be of lip service only. I have recently shared one emotion of great loss with a workmate who had suffered the very same, weeks apart. We both apologised to each other for being negative as these things alter the entire outlook.

It was done in a day, served a real purpose and is not spoke of any longer, apart from in a positive and jovial manner.

I do understand how difficult it can be once an emotional line is set, trick for me is not to go there and see it before you are on it.

Easily said I know.
 

humanoidlord

ce3 researcher
I know you have all seen my stories about the things I've gone through. So it's not like I don't have my own sad stories. But I do try to be positive, If I'm sad it's not for long and it doesn't last.

I tend to avoid Dark depressing people, Especially people who want to share really sad stories wanting a lot of input from me. People think I'm cold for just brushing people off when they come to me with sad stories.

It's not a coldness. To me, I didn't sign up to be someone's Husband or Wife, Or their emotional support, We have all went through hard times. And when someone comes to me, Specifically talking about their hardships, And Wanting to put the spotlight on them, I can't help but think about all the BS I've been through with losing my Daughters. And then to hear some asshole who lost his girlfriend or his mother told him he was fat, It just feels like My emotions are being trampled on by these people.

No, I didn't sign up to any website anywhere to be sad all the time, If someone is even thinking of approaching me with some sort of sad story,. Don't get mad at me for being ignored.

This is a community, To inflict your emotions upon it, especially of those emotions are burdens. Is Simply Wrong, I know I've done it myself, And humans are human. I'm not saying don't ever do it. But I am saying if that's your Mo, If you are this person All the time, Then you are Toxic to a community.

People may think, Damn that's cold shadow, No, It's not cold, If we stop and feel sad for everyone who is sad, We will never feel what happy feels like, We all need to know when to turn our heads and tune someone out.
keep ignoring them, they aren't your problem
 

Shadowprophet

Truthiness
I don't rate myself highly enough to be able to protect my own dignity.
This needed more elaboration, I was sleepy that morning, A lesson I've been working on for a long time, Is to rid myself of all ego, Ego is a pointless bias and it only serves to mislead one's self and others. IT seems like a negative thing to me, ego.

so I try to rid myself of it. The problem is, Ego is all through us, hidden in places we never thought to even look.
It may be impossible or just really difficult to rid ourselves of all pride, The reason is, Overall, Pride and Ego are two sides of the same coin, An emotion that can be used for positive or negative reasons.

So as I've grown older, The lesson I've learned is to separate Pride and Ego, Distinguish them from one another.

The positive and negative aspects of the same emotion used or misused. We can be proud That we have made the choices we have made to get where we are, We can be proud that we aren't addicted to some drug, Or terribly sick.

But, When we place a little negativity into that emotion, we have Ego, Where we are convinced we are better than others who made different choices with different results.

The lesson here is, I needed to elaborate more deeply on this issue. Because It seemed like I was agreeing with you insulting yourself. While What I was agreeing with was not placing our own selves over or above others. Because those are lies that the ego tells us.

If that makes sense bro.
 

pepe

Celestial
This needed more elaboration, I was sleepy that morning, A lesson I've been working on for a long time, Is to rid myself of all ego, Ego is a pointless bias and it only serves to mislead one's self and others. IT seems like a negative thing to me, ego.

so I try to rid myself of it. The problem is, Ego is all through us, hidden in places we never thought to even look.
It may be impossible or just really difficult to rid ourselves of all pride, The reason is, Overall, Pride and Ego are two sides of the same coin, An emotion that can be used for positive or negative reasons.

So as I've grown older, The lesson I've learned is to separate Pride and Ego, Distinguish them from one another.

The positive and negative aspects of the same emotion used or misused. We can be proud That we have made the choices we have made to get where we are, We can be proud that we aren't addicted to some drug, Or terribly sick.

But, When we place a little negativity into that emotion, we have Ego, Where we are convinced we are better than others who made different choices with different results.

The lesson here is, I needed to elaborate more deeply on this issue. Because It seemed like I was agreeing with you insulting yourself. While What I was agreeing with was not placing our own selves over or above others. Because those are lies that the ego tells us.

If that makes sense bro.

There is no personal insult in my statement, it's a quality to know your place in this world. But thanks for your concern.

I kicked the ladder over many years ago, while those who were climbing up were focused on the ascending sphincter above. Just out of lips reach.

Internally I know when I have the smarts on another but never practise in proving so. Unless something detrimental looms.

I like myself for being this way.
 

pepe

Celestial
I have worrying views on our permissive condition.

It's gone too far, we need more order and again it will come from over freedoms. Catering for the mental illnesses with self identification as part of the mainstream flow is folly.

I'm not sorry to sound harsh as those who are fluid in gender, race and even species actually need to be straightened out. Gay folk don't enter this issue as that is part of nature.

If a person needs to live their life as someone other than who they are and can be whatever they want by the stroke of a pen, then just wait until this generation hits the midlife age.

Every silver cloud has a black lining.
 

cosmic joke

Honorable
i don't really care what other people do or say. everyone walks their own paths. i am not an enjoyer of the 'mob'. never have been. mental illness of one form or another has been around since the beginnings of time. negativity as well. the war within makes it so. social media has put it into our faces. big pharma cashes in on it. politicians platform on it. sufferers deal with it. as always and forever. it don't go away. way too much time on our hands eh. so the world is a better place now.
 

pepe

Celestial
i don't really care what other people do or say. everyone walks their own paths. i am not an enjoyer of the 'mob'. never have been. mental illness of one form or another has been around since the beginnings of time. negativity as well. the war within makes it so. social media has put it into our faces. big pharma cashes in on it. politicians platform on it. sufferers deal with it. as always and forever. it don't go away. way too much time on our hands eh. so the world is a better place now.

I differ.
You give a man enough rope and he will hang himself. Give society enough rope and the freaks come out. Never should a person be permitted to float around on such issues. Give a person enough choice and they will want more.

Cloppers are a fine example of this desire to be different and recognised. Tell me that ain't a shame.

Pack of sick people who jack it over a cartoon about little ponies and want status. Come on, this isn't even reality to be discussing such behaviour.

Stuff goes on I know but lets keep it real and call it what it is. Never know, might stop a wave of muppers coming through on the back of it.
 
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