I worked with a woman who had the same problem. She just couldn't get it together so her family always told her to show up at 11 am when everyone else would show up at 1 pm. She figured out what they were doing and so it didn't work. I invited her son to my daughter's birthday party. The party was from noon to 2 at a pizza place. She arrived with her son about 2:30. I felt bad for her son. He didn't get to play the games or hang out with the other kids.